As promised, I’m back with another post!
I know we see alot of these post going around about how to romanticize your life and those post are great!
I wanted to put a different perspective on it from someone who is in their forties and has a family. Alot of the post I see are from younger girlies in their twenties and I love that for them, but I think us more seasoned women have different experiences and sometimes we need some things that are tailored for our age group!
I know y’all can relate.
Let’s go back to when I really started getting into romanticizing the small things in my life. When Covid first came on the scene in 2020, all of us were forced to slow down, rest and really sit with ourselves. A lot of us had no distractions, nothing pulling us away and lots of time to really access some things in our lives. For me, I realized exactly how much of my routines and daily self care things I did were basically on auto pilot.
What do I mean by that?
Let’s take for example getting my hair done or buying my flowers or even cleaning our home. These things had become something I checked off my to do or maintenance list every week. Not to say that I didn’t enjoy them, I did, but it became more of a chore than me indulging in them.
Now I know you might say, sis why are we romanticizing cleaning our houses LOL? Before you judge me, hear me out.
Romantizing your life literally means to approach the everyday thing you do with love, mystery and excitement.
Think about when you fell in love or when you were in a romantic relationship. Do you remember how excited you were? How even when you were doing the smallest thing, it seemed like a big thing because you were doing it with the person you loved?
It’s the same thing with the relationship we have with ourselves. We love ourselves and we want the best for ourselves and infusing some love and a tad bit of mindfulness into our day can change our whole outlook on the everyday task we do.
So now that we have established what romanticizing the everyday looks like, let me share with you a few of the ways I incorporate romance in my daily life.
I mentioned earlier that sprinkling a little mindfulness into your day can change your entire outlook. Mindfulness is a mental state that is achieved by focusing your awareness on the present moment. It is the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something. When we add mindfulness into the small things we do everyday, it causes us to be conscious of the things that we’re doing. For me, it brings a heightened sense of awareness and causes me to be in the moment and actually enjoy what I’m doing. Even the smallest thing. I encourage you to give it a try! Start with something small, such as a meal you enjoy. Take time out to actually be mindful of the moment that you are in. Eat slowly, take note of all the flavors you’re tasting, make it an entire experience and watch how your mindset changes. Then go and apply that same concept to your daily routine and see what happens!
Now y’all know me! I make going to the grocery store an event. I dress up or if I don’t feel like dressing up, I definitely put on something cute and casual. I take my bougie grocery bags and I have my list written down on luxe stationary that I take with me when I run errands. That is one way I make small things an event. When I clean, I set the atmosphere in the house before I clean. Even when I take my daily showers, it’s an entire event for me. I have certain routines that I follow that make me feel my absolute best while I’m doing them. Even when I cook, I light a candle, put on some music, pour some juice or water in my wine glasses and I enjoy myself. Making everything an event causes me to enjoy the mundane task I really may not like to do such as cooking.
Lisssen!! I am an self proclaimed flower aficionado. I call myself a fresh flower aficionado because that’s what I am! I have shared with you all on Instagram how every since my children were younger, I would treat myself and buy myself a fresh boquet of flowers. I now buy more than one boquet, but it’s not necessary in order to treat yourself. Having fresh flowers in the house is an instant mood booster and helps you feel luxurious and feminine. At least it does for me.
This is something that I’m just discovering that I really love. If you really want to romanticize your life, take yourself out. It can be as fancy or as casual as you’d like it to be. Make sure you look as good or better as you would if your spouse or partner was taking you out. Make sure you smell good too girl! You also don’t have to limit yourself to only going out to eat. You can take yourself shopping, to the museum, on a trip etc. The possibilities are really endless. Just make sure you take you out somewhere and do it often.
We all are creative beings. Yes all of us. If you are anything like me, I love being creative! It doesn’t matter what it is, if I think of something that I want that I don’t see, I will create it. It can be as big or as small as you want it to be. Baking, gardening, writing, flower arranging etc. Create for you. Whether you choose to share it or not with others is totally your decision.
I know this one should go without saying, but I’m saying it! Take care of you in all the ways you can. Practice all forms do self care listed below:
Mental: any act practiced towards a healthy psychological state and intellectual improvement, and health.
Physical: making sure that your body is in a good and healthy state to function adequately.
Spiritual: when you make sure to take care of your soul.
Emotional: Being aware of and acknowledging your emotions and feelings.
Social: having healthy social bonds and relationships with others.
Well there you have it! These are some of the ways that I romanticize my everyday life. I refuse to be stressed, burnt out and run down. Over the past two years, I’ve learned exactly how much I had been on the hamster wheel and I decided it was time to get off!
So if I have to make random moments in my life and event in order to enjoy the everyday, then that is what I’m going to do and I hope that you will join in with me.
There will definitely be a Part 2 so look out for that!
Let me know some ways in the comments the way you romanticize your life?