Happy Tuesday Friends!

I hope everyone’s day is off to a productive start!

I feel compelled to write this post today about choosing Grace. I want to remind you that here on She Does a Bunch, we are all about CHOOSING GRACE OVER PERFECTION! Why do you ask that? God gives us Grace, it’s precisely how He raises His children.  Perfectionism is something that I struggled with for a long time. I wanted the perfect house, husband, family, business etc. Through trial and error, I QUICKLY learned that on MY quest to perfect, I was leaving out all the people and things I said that I cared about, because I made “perfect” unintentionally solely about me. I asked God to help me to relinquish control of what I thought was the vision of perfect and once I TOTALLY surrendered myself to Him ( this must be done daily), I found Grace! It was right there waiting for me all the time. God doesn’t beat me up or throw me away because I don’t meet His expectations. So why should I beat myself up when I don’t meet my own?

SOOO I learned instead of beating myself up for not staying on top of my routine… I CHOSE GRACE

I learned instead of rehearsing in my head that I was a bad mom for not being able to do what I THOUGHT I needed to do for my children… I CHOSE GRACE, it turns out they didn’t need it anyway!

I learned that when I didn’t manage my time correctly and something fell by the wayside, instead of sulking in that and thinking myself a failure… you guessed it… I CHOSE GRACE.

Grace isn’t something that we earn, there is nothing that we can do to deserve it, God gives it to us freely, when we totally yield our lives to HIM. So we must learn how to give it away freely to others even when we know they don’t deserve it because neither do we!

I want to encourage all you wives, moms, aunties; etc, Life happens to everyone & there is nothing we can do to prevent that. What we can control is how we deal with it. Learn how to enjoy the season that YOU are in. Don’t play the comparison game because someone’s life looks “perfect” its not. Mine isn’t and neither is yours and that’s ok! Let’s not try to walk in others shoes because you NEVER know what that person had to go through to get where they are!

Let me say this too, being a Proverbs 31 Wife/ Woman IS NOT I REPEAT NOT ABOUT BEING PERFECT BECAUSE NO OF US ARE! It’s about living life with purpose, your purpose! So, if you’re thinking that about someone by what they post or the pictures they put out, DON’T !

I am an imperfect chick who now chooses Grace over perfection. I love my husband like NO OTHER because when you go through things as a married couple you realize at the end of the day that you 2 plus Jesus are ALL that you have! So you allow God to make it beautiful ! I love my 3 children because they have helped me become a much better person in ways that I never would’ve had I not had them. Each one of my children are in different stages of life, ( 11th grade, 7th grade, & 4th grade) so when I give talk on marriage and children its not something I just came up with or googled. I have lived it and I’m still learning everyday. The difference in me now and me then is I have some life experience and I have learned to CHOOSE GRACE. I still don’t get it right all the time & I don’t have all the answers, no one does but I am wiling to share what I have experienced and learned. After all experience is sometimes the BEST teacher! Let’s learn & grow together. I hope that  you were able to hear my heart on today! If you want to talk, I love hearing from you! Drop me a comment or send me an email at shedoesabunch@gmail.com

Much Love to you friends!

Nicole